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Pretty cool story about today.
So I left kinda bummed I didn’t have an underwater camera. I had my hopes up of being able to take all kinds of pictures of the fish, the coral, and the Jesus statue. I kept wondering what the lesson I was supposed to learn, or wondering if it had to be both of us because of the 4 number on the SIM card. Just left the RV wondering why.
When we got out to sea it was kinda overcast and a little chilly so I debated even getting in the water. I did though, decided I was gonna see that statue regardless. Water wasn’t bad either, higher temperature than the air.
So I snorkeled out there in the little orange life vest we were required to wear. And there he was. Pretty cool looking too. I was thinking, it would still be really awesome if I could just shake his hand anyway. So I tried to dive down to him. Hard as I tried, the life vest won. Only got about half way down before I floated back up.
Swam back to the boat thinking I’ll have to try again someday. Was thinking of the underwater poses I could have done with him if I had a camera. Saw a bunch of pretty fish and plants and couldn’t save any of it. Yeah, still bummed. But, tried to cheer myself saying they may have come out like some of the aquarium pics I have and couldn’t see all the colors anyway.
Everybody got back on the boat it was time to go to the next spot. And just about everybody was wet and freezing on the way there. I decided to skip that dive and hang out in the sun to dry off.
Everybody goes in and 2 kids hang out on the boat too cause they were cold. They provided these party mix snack bags for everyone. The captain walks over grabs a bag, opens it, and walks over where the kids are sitting and starts tossing the mix into the sea and I grabbed my camera with a big ole smile and was able to get pictures of a bunch of the fish. So got some fish pics anyway and the captain brought them to us!
Then on the way back I was watching the water behind the motors and it reminded me of some of the paint throwing pictures I’ve posted, so I took some pics of that too. I want to colorize them, not sure how yet. But a couple came out really cool.
Anyway, called my uber and started talking to the driver. I was telling him how I was diving down trying to shake Jesus’ hand and couldn’t get there. He told me it was a good thing that I didn’t. If I got there I’d probably have grabbed on so I didn’t float, and that it was covered in fire coral. I never even heard of it so I looked it up. Some sort of stinging venom that can last for up to 2 weeks! Some sites say it can even come back.
My jaw kinda dropped. I was then thinking holy shit, having my hands stinging and trying to enjoy my trip and drive would have sucked! That was my thank god moment. One of the poses I had pictured was giving him a hug too! I didn’t have a wetsuit on, just a bath suit. That would have super sucked.
Everybody delivered goodies today.
Jess also told me to download an app called lens buddy. It’s for selfies so you can stand away from it and take pictures. I’ve been trying to hold my phone in all different angels which get me all twisted to take the pictures. Now I’ll be able to do it myself, that’s what she uses. Im still going to delete the ones I don’t like, or make my skin roll funny. None the less, Ill be able to get better comparison pictures.
She said she had an eating disorder a few years back. I don’t remember it but she said because of it she no longer weighs herself. She goes by how she feels only. She didn’t want anything to influence her into falling back into it again.
I don’t have a scale either. I don’t feel great though. I’ll get there. When I put on my shorts that I wore this summer I had a bit of a muffin top which I didn’t have before. So I know there’s a difference.
I didn’t swim today even though the water was warm. Had a lot of people in the pool so I wouldn’t be able to do my laps. Hot tub also packed. It’s ok though cause I pulled out my mom’s slow cooker and been cooking a pork roast all day and laid outside with the dogs awhile. We had a very nice day.
Another before shot to show off my new beach chair.
Jessica recommended the pose for this one. She didn’t like the selfies I took.
Im wrapping it up for night. Hoping they play it cool around here with the fireworks, the dogs freak out. Good night &
Happy New Year, Brian!
I was thinking what would be really fun, is if you did do Colorado with me I could give you dance lessons every day right at the campsite. Then maybe we could do our own dance video recording somewhere. Could do it one of two ways, we could cover all the dances so you are well rounded or pick a song and focus on that one. Been awhile since I’ve choreographed anything, but I’m sure it would come back. Don’t have mirrors to see, that’s how all dance studios are set up. But we could use the video recorder and can work off of that. Would be for fun anyway so we don’t need to be perfect.
Then if we had a good time with the Colorado tour you might even decide you’d like to go with me up to Washington and Vancouver. I’ve been drawing a bit of blank on what I wanted to see there so maybe you’d pick those stops and I could pick the dance we do.
I did picture us doing a dance routine at the top of Moab right by the Arch. But, we could do one whenever we are both comfortable with dancing in front of the camera. Imma keep working on my body image issues. Im not worried about you learning, that will be your own mind game you’ll have to play out. But, I’d be with you and if something felt funny I could fix it.
That would be a fun thing to do too. Each place we visited do a dance to a song that tied in the location and the experience somehow.
I think it’s pretty rare for guys to admit their fears, even when they know what they are. On occasion they pop out and say something scared them, but not often. I had to identify each one of mine first, then work out the solution so I wouldn’t be afraid anymore.
Traveling alone. That one I mentioned was a surprise to hear from a guy. But, I’ve heard it from multiple. Made me a little sad to see some of the long term residents in places just parked because they “had no one to travel with”.
I just friended a guy from the RV group who’s wife past away and he made a post to make new friends. He’s brand new at RV life, and traveling solo now.
I do believe dieing of a broken heart is a real thing. My pop pop died 6 months after my nanny died. They were married for 40+ years and all they knew was each other. Not saying that type of commitment is a bad thing, I think its beautiful to be that devoted. But what is a thing, if not the thing… Getting back in the saddle is hard for folks.
Dance lessons helped a lot of windows and widowers get active again.
Also just had one of my friends on twitter, that’s also on FB, msg me asking me for details on RV life. She and her sister are thinking about the lifestyle. She’s hoping to find some happy trails. She uses her real pictures too. So when they get going should be fun to watch.
I’m not really the best person to ask for economical suggestions on RV life. Im still almost a full time tourist everywhere. So I just told her if she stays planted what I’ve learned the costs would be, and each thing that adds to it.
When Flavi and I bought the house in 2020, I was dreaming of building my garden of eden. It had a front porch and I picture rocking chairs and thought of us growing old together there. That happened really, really fast considering we had been together for 5 years for it tank in under 2. Went from an active participant in my life to sitting home waiting to cook dinner each day. Not much to look forward to each day. Of course, there’s a lot of different aspects that played a part. And as one was going down another going up. Moved into the house sometime in September and in 3 months of moving in you came into the scene, though you were just a guy that made cool & beautiful twitter posts at the time in my head.
You know, if I had come across your profile today with the follower count you now have, I would have probably never said a thing? I checked your followers, you were somewhere around 20k at the time. I felt ok with that. A larger account but not one of the twitter big wigs. Normal guy. I dig it. Good thing I got over that fear quickly.
I posted this in 2019.
Funny thing, in the comments was a response from a real estate client. She was a widow. I loved to work with the older real estate clients too. They were always so talkative and would share their stories. She was still madly in love with her husband. He used to take her out dancing and to all kinds of places. At that point, she was living on her own but not living it up. Broken hearted but still breathing. She had her kids and dogs that kept her going. She was selling her home to move in with her daughter, who she said wasn’t very kind to her, but her health was failing her and she wanted to make sure she wasn’t alone if something happened.
There were lots of real estate clients I tried to get into dance lessons. Not many took up the suggestion.
I’ve had quite a few people say they are living vicariously through me. I hope I’m helping in some small way. Is dreaming about it enough? Lot’s are still sick and stuck.
You know, it didn’t even dawn on me till I visited one of the cave sites that people lost their recorded knowledge because they painted on the walls but then had to move for various reasons, so their knowledge they saved to pass on was left behind. Having to start over ever time.
Got my before picture!
This is not the cheeky bikini. I didn’t feel comfortable wearing that yet for pictures, this is a diff bathing suit bottom I picked up till I lost a bit.
Did a photo shoot with Jess. She did snapped some pics while on FaceTime. I don’t feel comfortable with the belly enough yet but when I do Ill post it.
Clothes are the devil. I know Im not thin, but I always feel so much bigger in them. I have to get rid of the tan lines too cause they made some of the pictures look off.
My goal though is still to feel good no matter what I put on.
String bikinis, spaghetti straps.. all the same.
Tops I was thinking, my cousin mentioned the spaghetti.
Shoe laces count too. I prefer sneakers.
There was only one other time I got up to 195 lbs. That was when I was with Greg. I didn’t even realize how heavy I was until I saw the pics of us riding a horse. I was wearing this spaghetti strapped top, very tight. Thought I looked awful, so went with the lose fitting tunic type tops.
Just had a lady melt down on my post in the RV with dogs group. Posting about the scenarios that could have happened with me leaving the dogs with the driver that ended up in a lawsuit and how everyone should avoid doing what I did.
I responded by giving her the scenario that I was avoiding, which was more probable than what she was suggesting. Suki is a bit skittish, and reactive with dogs she doesn’t know. I have to keep her away from them.
In reality, I wasn’t worried about either happening. I left the dogs in the car to see how the groomers wanted me to handle bringing them in. Both are a pain the ass when they get their feet done and require multiple hands on deck. I had to help the tech, and we did it in the waiting room.
If there was gonna be a problem I doubt I would have allowed the uber requests to go through. Nor would I have gotten the urge to take them then. I get tech problems and decide it’s not the right time to go, or post, or book things pretty regularly.
Lots of women are afraid of the “what ifs”. My mom used to lecture me about it, but she’s afraid too. Maybe a good new year’s resolution would be for people to face at least one fear and conquer it. I did a lot of that in 2022 and 2023. Hoping I run out of fears in 2024 or at least catch the issues before they become one.
I thought the Ed and Agnes story was quite sad. She left him all because fear got the best of her. She thought 10 years older was too much. He spent the rest of his entire life being devoted to her, she was his moon. Agnes didn’t see the sun, she was stuck in the cave.
At the beginning of this, I did go through a short spurt of something similar. I got past it pretty quick cause I decided that was dumb. But, for a long time I didn’t want to date anyone older than me. I didn’t want them to die first and I’d be left alone. That’s what happened to my mom. He was 51 and she was 27 when he passed. Much bigger time gap obviously, but still affected me to a degree. My mom never got over my father either, even though she did remarry. Lots of things she does to this day ties back to him.
Lots of times I think that’s the situation with folks on twitter too, stuck in the cave and can’t get past certain hangups. Other times, I don’t think they’ve gone down the rabbit hole yet. On FB most that I know don’t even know it exists.
That’s another thing I did years ago, stopped using Flouride toothpaste. I use Xyli-white by Now. No clue if it really does anything or not, I think it went along with the calcified comments. According to my FB timeline, it was still working just fine before and after. Just became aware? Maybe the removal of fluoride helped? Dunno, cause tap water in lots of places still have it. Might all be horse shit and it never stopped working to begin with.
Found out an easy way to add music to my videos. If I make a FB reel on my cell phone it allows me to add the music to the video and then I can download it before publishing it. Then I can post it all over. I put it on twitter, then on my profile as a video (that has a bit more detail about the experience than this) and then uploaded it as a real to Unusual Sights.
I read this option before but never figured it out on my pc. For some dumb reason they don’t have the website version matching the phone version. Why do companies do that? Add features and not make them available on all their platforms?
Alright, so this is the picture I had a passer by at the Castle take. I had an urge to do the hands thing so that’s what I did. But! I don’t like it. I get hung up on how heavy I think I look in it. I wasn’t going to post it all. Somehow though, it ended up posted on FB even though I specifically didn’t check that photo to be uploaded. It was a conscious decision not to post it and to wait. I almost deleted it. But then I decided it would be a good before to when I get to the after for a side by side comparison so I let it stay. I decided I wanted to show you both just like the video I posted.
But now I’m thinking that’s dumb.
